Remodeling Oneself in 2020: Reflection and Intention

I am sort of indifferent about keeping up with traditions and creating new ones, but there are a couple of exceptions I love. During the holidays, spending time with family is at the top of my list of traditions I can’t do without. During the entire month of December I cherish every moment with my loved ones, enjoying the snow covered cityscape and our cozy time together. My other tradition is to take time to refocus and reflect on the past year and refocus on the new one ahead. To prepare for self-reflection, goal setting and new ideas, I always treat myself to a fresh journal. I often find myself waking up early and grabbing a toasty morning coffee, or curled with blankets on a weekend afternoon while I take a little time to intentionally prioritize and process this moment of flow into my life. 

I like journals that include questions to help kick start each entry. When that age-old question popped up asking, “Where do you see yourself in five years?” I never had the clarity to answer it. Now that I am in my 30s, life has less ambiguity and I found I could look ahead with certainty and directness. (Hello goal to upgrade our home furniture to Room and Board!) This realization brought me a lovely brush of contentment and peace. Simply put, I am thankful for this special time in my family’s lives, creating beautiful new memories together in a home we adore.

Alyssa Greve, Founder of Project Remodel

In the honor of reflection, it’s important to be mindful of the world around us and adjust to it as it evolves and changes each year. We each get to personally decide how we want to adapt to issues that may be outside of our control. Take technology — that little mobile computer in our pocket that’s changed the culture over the past decade and more. How do you decide when to tune in and when to check out? I believe we have to be intentional with our time and check in with ourselves. That means choosing whether to tap the screen while having a conversation with people, or just setting it aside and really engaging with others. Whatever your decision, it can lead to building a habit, for better or worse. 

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.”


It’s no surprise that parenthood changes everything. We have to shift our time, adjust to new personal norms and navigate the demands of tiny humans. Recently, I got to hear Tina Fey speak at #Oprahs2020Vision. She reassured the audience that toddlers and babies probably don’t remember much of  anything under age five. So, if you feel the need to put on a Pinterest decked out birthday party, remember that it’s more for you than for your child. When I heard this revelation, a huge sense of relief washed over me.

To plan for the future, it helps me to take a look back. Here’s a look at my 2019:

Winter 2019: My life was moving so quickly, it’s hard to remember anything other than snow and cold. We played some pond hockey and I got a stark reminder that my body would no longer do what my mind told it to. A workout routine was immediately put in place.

Spring 2019: Started Project Remodel! I committed to waking up at 5am every morning to plan, write, and execute this blog that had been incubating in my mind for a long time.

Summer 2019: Watched The Great Hack, a movie about how our personal data is everywhere online, which I found both cool and creepy. Traveled to Denver with our three-year-old and learned that taking a toddler out of their routine can be a disaster, but can also be totally worth the experience. I was also reminded of what a hangover was … thanks for that.  

Fall 2019: Launched Project Remodel — my passion project! Held an intimate launch party with family and friends. Journaled crazy career goals and loved every minute of being with family over the holidays.

Moving into this next life chapter, I plan to focus on being present in life’s moments, I’ll be intentional in finding me-time in the morning before the kids wake up, and I’ll continue to enjoy the remodeling process of turning our house into a home. I am excited to see what new books I’ll be opening this year, what movies inspire me, and new music that moves me in this new flow of life. My heart is open. My faith is strong. 

It’s 6:30am and I’ve been writing for 45 minutes. This is the start of my day and my intention. I’m off to get ready for work, get the kids up, drop them off at daycare, head into work, pick up the kids, make dinner, have bath time, and then fall asleep, hopefully by 9pm. Welcome to the current flow of my life. Enjoying this moment.

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